Saturday, July 31, 2010

No Mediation

Having lived through the hell of an NFH for four years, I can safely say that mediation with one of these people is unwise at the very least. NFHes have a talent for building trigger buttons in their targets. You get sick and tired of certain phrases or looks or whistles, whatever, and the NFH knows it. They then use that trigger in a mediated meeting and you are wounded again. If you don't go ballistic on the spot, you are lucky. Mediation with a serial bully or predator or psychopath is NOT a good idea.

2 Comments:

colleen said...

this is so true. I have a NFH. the manager decided to have mediation. first of all she has no mediation skills,but i decided to go. 6 days before the mediation the NFH SABATOGED the mediation by going on my porch,leaving the baby carriage for 10 hours on my porch, throwing garbage on my porch, etc. i knew then i should not have gone. to make a long story short. the couple(NFH) were extremely manipulative and the manager sided with them. NFH have learned the skillful art of manipulation. they act like the Leave It To Beaver family but are really Charlie Manson and Squeaky From. It is a game to them and they win until you fight back. I found a family member who threatened the couple and they don't mess with me very often.

colleen said...

TRUE MEDIATION DOESN'T WORK WITH NFH. I HAD A COUPLE NFH; WIFE AND HUSBAND TEAM. REMINDED ME OF CHARLIE MANSON AND SQUEAKY FROME. THERE FACADE WAS TO ACT LIKE THE LEAVE IT TO BEAVER FAMILY.
6 DAYS BEFORE THE MEDIATION NFH SABOTAGED IT BY INTRUDING ON MY TERRACE, LEAVING A BABY CARRIAGE FOR 10 HOURS NEAR DOOR, ETC. I SHOULD HAVE NOT PROCEEDED TO THE MEDIATION;ESPECIALLY SINCE THE MANAGEMENT HAS NO MEDIATION SKILLS. DECIDED TO GO. NFH LIED,MANIPULATED. THEY ARE PROS AT MANIPULATING AND SECURING SUPPORT. MEDIATION CANNOT WORK WITH SOCIO PATHS.