Still Driving By, Part II

During the past week, our ex-neighbor has gone out of his way to drive by us when I am taking my husband to work. He sits along the street waiting to see us leave the driveway and then meets us at the intersection where I have to turn left. It has suddenly become a game with him. He obviously only upsets himself. We just shake our heads and go about our business.

5 years and he still misses us. Poor psychopathic loser.

Still Driving By

Almost five years have passed since The Neighbor From Hell moved one mile away, and yet he still drives by. Our street is really inconvenient for him, but he just can't give up driving by, hoping that we see him and get angry. When I do see him, I just look and pass it off. No need getting angry again and again. It wastes my time. He's a loser and he will never be anything else.

Never Tell Them You're Recording

I made two big goofs during our entire ordeal. The first one was when I was so desperate to get him to leave us alone. It made no sense that we had done nothing wrong to him, we had in fact, tried to be cordial neighbors and he was doing all these ugly things to us. Thinking that he would quit if he knew we had been secretly filming and audio recording, I blurted it out. Dumb. That only made him sneakier and harder to document. If I had to do it over again, I would keep the recording secret until I absolutely had to divulge it - in court. By then we would have had even better evidence than we did.

Before you record your bully neighbor, consult a civil rights attorney. That money will be well worth it. We consulted an attorney and got all the pertinent details on when we can record and when we cannot record. You don't want to go to court and then find out that you violated your bully neighbor's rights. Bad move. Make sure you are within the law.

Slander is Their Favorite Game

A bully who hates you, turns to his neighbor and says, "That guy over there is a pedophile." If this is said about you, that's all it takes to become labeled by people who do not know you. And it's especially easy in a neighborhood where one neighbor barely knows the other. It didn't used to be that way - until HE moved in.

We know that our accuser - our former bully neighbor of four years - still spreads the slander - comes back to the neighborhood and gets neighbors stirred up because he is utterly obsessed with destroying us. We did not give him our property, we took him to court for shooting at us, etcetera, and he moved out one day before a trial that could have put him away for several months. The other thing about him - his children exhibit all the signs of having been molested. The vast majority of molestations occur within families.

People we once knew as friends are no longer friendly. They distance themselves and believe the rumor.

Bullies, with their twisted gray matter, need to be distrusted, not believed, distanced, alienated, stood up to, and driven out. But few people have the guts to do that.

I've know this for 8 years, but it was announced today that science now suspects that the brains of bullies are physically different from the brains of 'normal' people. Their brains' pleasure centers are stimulated by witnessing the pain of other people. They enjoy causing people pain, distress, anger - all the emotions we consider negative.

So far there is nothing that can be done medically to correct their twisted gray matter. And nine times out of ten, their families back them up 100%. I saw it with my neighbor and his family. Any relative would defend him to the death. He was a good boy, he never lied.

In the meantime, the rest of us have to endure, run away from, agree with - do whatever we can to tolerate them in free society. And that costs money - lots of money. While we bear the cost of court fees, moving, repairing, mourning the loss of pets that they kill, treatment for post traumatic stress disorder, whatever - they sit there and take pleasure in it.

There is something very wrong about this picture and the sooner the judicial system - especially Fresno's - takes this into their own gray matter, the better.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/27592980/

Hearing From Others

Frequently I hear from others about their own neighbors-from-hell. All of them are amazed at how horrible people can be for no good reason. Hair-trigger tempers are frequently possessed by the bullies and they are set off by the smallest things that most people ignore. Bullies are the center of their universe and believe they should be the center of everyone's universe. Incredible. If you have a neighbor-from-hell, let me know.

The Bumper Sticker Blog

A bumper sticker now resides on my truck's bumper, telling all about this blog. People are always curious about bumper stickers - they can tell a lot about the driver and they can promote whatever you have a passion for. My passion is letting people know what dangerous people psychopathic predators can be as neighbors. It's like a very tiny ad-campaign that catches the eye of one person at a time. Hopefully a few will write it down (do not text while driving - please!) and check it out at home.