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In our case, our NFH (Neighbor From Hell) slung verbal garbage our way almost every day. Many of them were threats. The only way we found we could deal with them was to file with the local court for a restraining order and to document everything they did to us with a diary and videotape. If you get the order then just keep calling the cops to report a violation of the court order every time. It's really wearing, but it is about the only way we found that we could fight back. Finally all the court appearances and fines drove him out and we now live in peace. It's a damned hard road. No easy way to deal with it, I'm afraid.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
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My family and I are suffering through a similar situation. After we got a restraining order against him, he had his wife make a counter-claim (14 pages of falsities) and a judge granted her restraining order against us without even a hearing. We are well past ten thousand dollars in lawyer costs. This week, we were supposed to go to court. Subpoenaed 9 people, had them all assembled and the judge decides she doesn't have time for us. Orders us to mediation. What the heck are we supposed to mediate?
The authorities are a joke. We have had similar responses to yours from all of them. Police urged us to get the restraining order and then won't do anything when he breaks it.
My husband is retired and I am not young anymore. This is killing us.
Please don't publish this-- I am afraid.
I am so, so sorry for you. You are so brave.
I hope ur writing ur book. You're the only other person I've known to have a NFH (neighbor from hell) as bad as mine. plz e-mail me as I'd like to contriubte to ur book. plz don't publish this. asegler@knology.net. This has been going on for nearly 10 years now and exposing them is all we can do. I'll provide u with court documents and such. It takes 1 to know one. plz take me seriously, thanx
Hi Susan,
I don't know if this blog is still active, as I see it's been a while since you posted. But for what its worth, I thought i'd still comment.
I discovered your blog in the stalkingvictims.com messageboard, and have just finished reading it. I, too, was stalked and harassed by a neighbour in my former apartment. This psychopath would watch me and try to follow me everytime he saw me out in the street, and in addition, he would also blast loud music, make all these weird and disturbing thudding noises (like hammering and chainsaw), and scream at random hours. He was really wrecking my life, and finally, when I saw things were not going to improve, I moved out (I was renting the place, fortunately). This ordeal lasted for 9 months - so, it's not as bad as others I have heard of, but of course at that time, I didn't know when/how it would end.
The new area where i now live is much, much better, though I am now suffering from PTSD. But I have been seeing a counsellor, who is just wonderful.
I like the insights you wrote in your blog re bullies, psychopaths. I, too, never did anything to the man, but he just tormented me the way he did. I guess it's like what you said, that the pleasure centre of his brain is seeing people suffering. People like bullies, predators, and sociopaths have no emotion, and no heart. Or if ever they have a heart, it is the colour black. A black, evil heart.
Are you still working on your memoir? I wouldn't mind if you include my story (I can give you the full version if you're interested), but I do ask that you make it anonymous. All the best, and i hope you will soon recover from your own PTSD.
Hi again, Susan...
I just noticed that comments are screened before being posted. That is good.
I would then like to invite you to read the full story of my own experience with the NFH, but please DO NOT POST this second message on your blog. This is for yours and Karl's eyes only.
I wrote about my story in the stalkingvictims.com messageboard.
This is where I wrote about my story:
http://www.stalkingvictims.com/discuss/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=8756
And this is where I wrote about my PTSD:
http://www.stalkingvictims.com/discuss/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=8760
And also here:
http://www.stalkingvictims.com/discuss/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=8765
To recap, i ask please do not post this message on your blog... but you CAN post the first message i wrote.
Thank you, and all the best to you.
Sincerely,
Rain
I feel this would fit well into a documentary I'm hoping to do next year; "Thy Neighbor" The American Neighbor Crisis. Please contact me at " mraye@mrlholistics.com
It's amazing. What makes them turn into these deviant beings?
This is psychological torture at its worst. It should be illegal, but when the predator lies and says you're the stalker, the cops get bored. He said, she said.
You want to move, but you can't, because then this person is controlling you. So you stay, because you don't want to give them the satisfaction. But then they're controlling you that way instead.
The emotional scars must take a long time to heal, and most likely will have an effect on any relationships with future neighbors, wherever one goes.
You know, and I mean this in all seriousness, I believe some of the people currently running this country seem to have a lot of the same traits. They certainly don't care about the pain they're inflicting on people, or the amount of control they are asserting over people, especially women, but also workers in general.
I would LOVE to give you our nfh story. How can I contact you without info being public?
If you send me your email address, I will not publish it and we can then correspond freely.
I don't understand. Why not sue him in civil court. And also have an injunction placed upon him via that same civil process. You certainly appear to have enough evidence against this coward to have him dealt with.
Thanks for this Blog! I am currently dealing with a sociopath with bipolar disorder who lives across the street. Last week, He graffitied the whole front of his house and when I made a comment about it on a news website (it was on the news) because I was appalled at the fact that he was destroying a beautiful historic home, He began screaming obscenities at me and trying to provoke my fiance and my brother in law to meet him in his backyard (to fight, I would imagine.) I had to call the police. Now, whenever He sees me outside, He calls me juvenile names. I swear it feels like I am dealing with a 5th grader. I am worried that He may take it further and mess with my car or try to come on the property (I rent). I am looking into possibly buying a gun for protection. This guy has a history of violence and tormenting people in the neighborhood. I am planning on moving next year when I get married and He is losing his house to the bank, so hopefully I won't have to deal with this much longer. I feel your pain! People are crazy out there!!
OMG! This is too familiar! We've been dealing with an absolute psycho since 2004. I'd love to share my story with you, but must remain anonymous. I'm sure our troll would find this and it would make it worse.
The local police have been useless. We have a restraining order that isn't worth the paper it's printed on. We ended up going the civil route because the neighbors seem to be made of teflon and know how to work the system.
We thought it was over, but then someone (hmmmm) tried to really hurt my family a few weeks ago. While we were sleeping... It was terrifying.
I'm glad that your psycho moved, I wish ours would.
Predators are just evil.
-- PTSDMama
I wish, oh how I wish, I had known about this website sooner. I have been living across the street from a NFH for years, but two years ago he decided that I am his target. I can not go outside and garden. My 12 year old is having nightmares. I live under constant death threats, burn our house down threats, break out our windows threats. I doubt if the man even knows why he's doing what he's doing. The police have said though that this is his m.o. and I'm just the latest in a line of victims. I am from California. In California death threat is a good way to go to jail. In Oregon, where we live now, it is considered free speech. Police have been here over and over again-the man knows how to skirt the law. He's been in prison, a convicted felon, ex meth head, and current alcholic. About a month ago his tactics changed. He started running down my 20 year old to have him give us the threats. If my 20 year old were NORMAL that would be ok, but he's bi polar, and not entirely stable. I lost it... and I lost it big. We've spent 3,000 on fencing in the past two years. I have done without two years of pacemaker checks for myself while we do this (and the fence still isn't done). We can not move because our mortgage is upside down... and to make things worse my husband recently lost his job.
I agree with you that these people are predators. But, I must say the word I have used over and over again is terrorist. This man even has another neighbor so scared of the violence that he's willing to go into court and lie for him.
It is so scary... so hard to deal with. The emotional toll, and the physical toll have been overwhelming for me.
Thanks, Peg
I am so glad that I am not alone. My husband and I have been bullied by a scociopath for over a year now and it won't ever end until he and his family leaves. We haved lived in our home for almost 20 years and with other neighbors without any drama. Now 5 years after this guy moves in, he decides that he hates our landscaping, beleives our 9 foot tall hedges belong to him and have all 35 feet of them removed by a bobcat...without notice!! Still in a legal battle with them over that and he continues to verbally harass my husband even as recently as yesterday morning, calling him a pedofile, faggot, and other things I don't want to write. He is paranoid and beleives all the neighbors are watching him yet he knows every move we make and harrasses us when we go to work, go to church and work in our yard. THERE ARE NO LAWS!! That is the saddest part. In our state we have been told all we can do is put a civil restrining order on him and have been told we can't file harrassement unless he gives a specific time when he is going to kill my husband. Another of his constant threats...drive my husband somewhere and "settle this like men". There is something wrong with this guy and there is nothing we can do except go to therapy, church and hope our lawyer can get our property dispute settled quickly. Thanks for listening!
I just found out this past week that in our state (Oregon) there is such thing as a Stalking Protection Order. I went to the court house to get the papers, and they acted like they had NO clue about them and didn't know where to go to get them. turns out two doors & down the same hall, and early in the mornings,someone from the local battered women's advocacy group will help ANYONE who needs one fill out the paper work for FREE and help submit the paperwork. We are going down tomorrow morning to start ours.
Our neighbor has now targeted my 20 year old mentally challenged son. My son walks a lot, and the neighbor his now chasing him through out the neighborhood to give him messages to us (since he can't get a reaction out of us)--the messages are that he's going to kill us or beat us. In Oregon this is freedom of speech. We also recently bought 'fencing fabric' and installed it, to block his view of our yard and to help break what seems like an obsession on his part. It seems to be helping. I recently found out that my now 13 year old daughter (11/5/98) has been having nightmares for two years over our neighbor from hell. She now sees the school psychologist.
This is totally looney... I've never had such troubles before in my life!! He's just plain flat crazy!
I would think that eventually there will have to be laws more specific to these problems. I live in a small town very quiet except for the white trash meth dealers across the street. Since last June he decided that he needed to bring three trucks to the front of the property and constantly rev them up and do what he pretends is work on them. He is sometimes out there from 7AM TO 3AM changing tires from one vehicle to another and changing them back again the whole time reving the engines. So now he has brought four 4wheelers that he rides up and down the street and has put racing mufflers on them. The police have not been able to catch him in the act so they seem to not be able to do anything about it. I do think they try but they are at a loss of what they can and can't do. All of the neighbors are tired of all of the noise and traffic but the wt has decided to target me. The last time the police came she was in the street screaming at the officer that if I did'nt stop calling the police on them that something bad was going to happen that she could not help???? I guess they think that I am the only one in the neighborhood that can hear! Now I ask you doesn't that sound like a threat? I think my next step is the state police or an attorney these people scare me because from what I read on the internet when someone takes meth they are not in their right mind and they think that they can do anything that they want. Let's all hope that something happens to stop these crazy people out there.
OH my...I have a blog about the bully next door...aptly named www.bullynextdoor.com I even bought the domain. My crazy and his girlfriend have a working surveillance camera 15 feet away from our windows. It's all legal, the watch us, listen, etc. Like many I have learned that there is mental illness involved. Bully and girl are both bipolar, drink excessively and potheads. (from personal observations)
We aren't moving and looks like the bully isn't either so it's a matter of surviving. Another summer of the parties with open lewd behavior is around the corner. Sadly. Anyway check out my blog if you would like. Feel free to post a link.
My NFH CONSTANTLY are Thumping, Pounding, Banging, Slamming cupboard doors, Fighting/Talking loud enough for me to be disrupted by them, Stalking & Watching when I go outside, Turn Loud Thumping Obnoxious Music on ALL DAY LONG, Pounding into my unit- From the time I arrived home today (12:45pm) to after 12am.. ECT ECT ECT
I have mental anguish over this. Sleep deprivation, Anxiety, Headaches have started and back pains.
Please contact me back at gkeplar@gmail.com
I am so glad you are safe now. Just went through all your videos and blog. Just know that someday something will go very wrong in this predators life. My predator moved to another state but I found out his bully son got 20 years for rape, so I feel justice has been served. Justice for destroyed property, dead animals, stalking and harassment. Take care! Lorraine
Hey Sue. I've reading your blog for a month now. I was wondering if you are still living with the neighbor? Did he finally back off? Did the law finally cooperate? I really hope you and your husband are doing okay. No one has to go through this.
Hey Sue. I've been reading your blog for a month now. I was wondering if you're still living next to the nightmare neighbor. I hope he's gone really because you and your husband do not deserve to be in a situation like that. I hope the law is finally cooperating too.
(I don't think my last comment posted so I'm re-typing again).
Yes our NFH is really gone. I have not been followed for several years now and the neighborhood has been very peaceful. Unfortunately, our PTSD is still plaguing us. I still have trouble with depression and with finding an interest in anything. So our fight concluded with the Court scaring him out of the neighborhood, but the cost was high. If I had to do it over again, I would probably move as soon as possible - that's how bad the cost has been - financially and emotionally. But for people who want to stand and resist a serial bully or psychopath, it is possible to defeat an NFH.
I dont know how you have hung in there for this long. We have a next door neighbor that has been awful. We have lived here for 9 years, they moved in a little of a year ago, and we are MOVING! We have 3 young kids, and there is no other choice. We are about to loose a ton of money on the house, but because she is so unbalanced, we are viewing it a choice for personal safety. We loved this house, We loved our neighborhood. Its amazing that one person can make your existence so unbearable. The sad thing is the neighbor across the street is moving too because of her. We all just want to get as far away as possible. I will say that now that we made the decision to move, and now that the house sold, we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Even looking at houses and realizing how peaceful our life is about to be is huge. I know it seems drastic, but after reading your posts, and having our own personal experience, its worth it. Just go. Thanks for your blog- I really appreciate it.
Hi Sue, I just came across your blog, that's too bad what you had to deal with and endure with the NFH, but great that he's moved on and you have finally some peace. I totally understand how emotionally stressful it can be to have a NFH, and I know too how the ptsd is all too real. You said that this situation for you was with a high cost financially. I realize that there are certain court costs when going for an injunction and naturally attorney costs, but how high did it get or how many times did your case incur financial costs with courts...? (if you dont mind explaining a little.. I would appreciate it, thanks)
- dealing with our own lousy & noisy & lying & deceiving NFH
We hired an attorney to help guide us through this mess. She was not cheap and, unfortunately, our NFH violated the court order often, requiring our attorney to file repeatedly. Then to make matters worse, there were countless continuances for one lame reason and then another. Our attorney and we would show up ready to go and the judge would continue it. So we had to keep paying for our attorney's time.
Another problem with PTSD is that you do not always use your head well. We spent money we didn't have anyway just to get away from the place. We were a bit crazy with the money and that is all part of our high cost. After four years of constant onslaught, it was just pure hell.
I too have hideously bad neighbors. They are renters. The main tenants are men. They are constantly on their back patio which is The have a pool table outside on their covered porch and play games for multiple hours. They have trashed the landscaping with junk sitting outside, a large school bus they purchased that is parked in the side yard. They smoke cigarettes alot and smoke pot all day long which gets me quite sick.They sit on the patio nad smoke cigarettes and copious amounts of marijuana. The like to make alot of noise by pounding on drugs outside and playig a trumpet outside the bedroom window. They are usually loud, swear constantly, seem not to do anything for a living because they are always three. They smoke pot and ciagarettes all day long. The stench wafts over to our yard which sickens me also. Their large aggressive dogs charge the fence when I'm outside. They charge my dogs through the "good neighbor" fence and denuded my dog's muzzle cost me several thousand in vet bills).I could go on.
I live in Oregon and have called the county sherrif many times to get the music to spot and nothing happens. We built a new privacy fence so the dogs wouldn't see each other-they wouldn't help pay for the several thousand dollar vet bill. These people have trashed the yard by parking multiple vehicles on it as well as a large old school bus they use for a lounge. They have destroyed our property value so selling it's a great idea. They have large noisy parties frequently lasting until 3-4 a.m. I've lost soooo much sleep because of their noise. I've called the sherrif many times, but they are of no help. What is my next step?
mrowlnd
Keep track of everything they do to you - day, time, event. Build a record and then go to your county and get a restraining order application. Present your case calmly and honestly. Once the papers are served and you have your day in court, hopefully a judge will see your side and give you the restraining order. After that, you have to keep documenting their activities and call when they violate the court order. Just keep at it and hopefully they will tire of it and move. Doesn't always work, but it's about the only thing you can do short of moving.
Hi. I was wondering if you have contacted the police about them having a Meth Lab and that they are selling drugs from their house? To me I would think it would be a great way to get rid of them. If you haven't you can contact the police from a payphone and tell them you are scared for your saftey so you cannot give them your name. Tell them that you suspect that they have a Meth Lab and they are selling drugs. That you see people coming and going at odd hours of the day and night. That you are worried for the safety of the neighborhood bc Meth Labs are known to blow up and hurt a lot of innocent people.
Let know what you think and how it goes.
Good luck and hang in there.
We gave serious thought to reporting them, but decided against it. We knew that he would know who reported it and would call in his goons for sure. I really wanted to report him and knew it was the honorable thing to do, but I was also aware of his psychopathic ways and how dangerous he could become if we invaded the one thing he never talked about, never joked about - his drugs. Another neighbor who saw even more than we did also thought about reporting him but also felt that would put them in danger. As it is, he has since moved out to another house which he lost in foreclosure. He now lives in a mobile home, so he lost a lot when he took us on. He probably has a hard time producing meth now with such little space.
Our neighbors moved in about 4 years ago. The first year was fine, with the exception of them (mother and teenaged son) leaving trash out in their yard to blow over onto our property. Then my wife gave birth to twins in the fall. The next spring the neighbors had a garage sale, so I thought it would be nice to help them and purchase a table and chest for $40.00. Soon after the kid and his friends would come over and blare hip-hop while the babies were trying to take their naps. This happened all the time, I didn't say anything. Then one day my wife is at the grocery store and a vehicle pulls in the driveway. I assume its her and my older daughter but after 5 minutes, I go to see whats keeping them and it wasn't them, its the neighbors friend parked talking on our 6 month old concrete driveway. I lean out the door (babies are napping) and tell them to get off our driveway, the friend said ok, but the neighbor kid threw a temper-tantrum. Throwing stuff around in his driveway and yelling obscenities. I went out to confront him and he hid behind his mom. Since then, we have had one vehicle keyed, a tire stabbed, half eaten peaches thrown in our backyard (along with other things), the cops called for me being on the roof and the dogs barking during daylight hours. The other day I go out to move the mini-van out to the street so the twins (now 3 1/2) can wash their cars in the driveway, the son (now 21 or 22) and his mom are outside giving me an evil stare. I parked the van and asked them what they are looking at, she pulls out her cell phone and dials the police. Police come, take down my name and info. I don't know what he said to them, I am sure they are making stuff up, she was snooping behind us listening to our conversation, interrupting us and trying to hear my info. He said basically to knock it off and avoid contact. That night I am hosing off my car and they are in the window taking pictures or video of me and the next morning 3 more bitten peaches in the backyard.
Any ideas on how to combat these pathetic neighbors?
Try to ignore them as much as possible and keep the contact to a minimum. If they increase their harassment, consider getting a restraining order against them. If the court grants the TRO, then you can call the cops on them every time they violate the order. Be cautious though, the court hates neighbors who fight back and forth, making it difficult to determine who is the primary problem. A one-sided situation is much better for you. IF they do things you can video, do it and present that to the court as well.
My next door neighbors are driving me insane. They commited many crimes against me.I cant catch them.I got cameras evrything. I suspect them of stalking my daghter now and vandalizing her car. I`ve been to the cops may times .She works for them. Her boyfriend the mainculpery is a crsy crake head . I cant move. Help!!!
wow so sorry for what you all live through. I live in an apt. bldg. where there is a looney who steals ppl's laundry, opens the dryer doors so you lose your qtrs and have wet laundry, for three! yrs going on, I caught who it was several times, an older man like 65who I said get your hands off my clothes he then screamed obscenities at me and goes to everybody who will listen to him talking about me, when of course it's him has been stealing ppl's laundry. The apt. mgr. said "oh he's such a nice man" (as if) wait until he screams his obscenities at her. He's totally looney in how he's behaved when I have caught him, in fact scary like if he had a gun he'd of shot me, he's that bizarro. Then he bad mouthed me to some other looney women like himself who started banging on my door, repeatedly, will not answer that. Anyone that bangs on someone's door 20x!! is insane, don't answer it, call the police. It's sad to realize that everyday you never know when a psychopath is around, and/or working with or living near such. I had crazy ppl that were very bad living near in my home before so I did what Ernest Holmes, Emmet Fox, others teach, be clear on what you want to happen, and think it like it has already happened. Think of these ppl as gone, out of your lives, forever. It worked, it was shocking how fast it worked, how well it worked. I am doing same with this looney laundry stealer now, until few mo's ago didn't know exactly who it was. Like me, everyone here posting just wants to live their lives in peace, and there comes ppl like this. Borderlines besides psychopaths are ppl who behave like all these e.g.'s here, read about both, there is not ever dealing w/them because they will never be rational. And in fact can be very violent as they have no sense of 'boundaries' from what you own to your personal space to even your own body. In case of old guy here combine psychopathology w/dementia/senility. So sorry little kids as well having to live thru what you all have posted. Instead of anybody here having to leave, concentrate on those looney's leaving, its your home you can keep it! Think it, believe it.
I have this neighbor who has become a total nfh from the start of this year. Basically the wife who owned the house divorced this guy and stopped paying the mortgage. I am assuming the 3 other guys this guy has living with him are somehow contributing to the rent or mortgage payment. I rarely see this guy go out to work, he hardly goes anywhere without his car and it is almost always parked outside. Early this year when there was a snowfall, he banged on my door violently because I shoveled the snow onto the 'parking lane' and because it is set up where the driveways are spaced apart to allow one parked car, he yells that the snow is blocking 'his half' (when really barely a third of the spot was covered and he has a junker of an SUV parked in the driveway that doesn't run anymore, so I don't understand why he needs all that space). I didn't respond and then he gets his thugs to help shovel the snow over to my side. So I basically waited till the thug went back in to shovel the snow out which really pissed me off. So during the weekdays when I have to get up early, they would have their 'talks' which ends up as yelling and cursing from as late as 12-3am. I hardly hear anything in the day and they usually do this only at night since they think no one hears them. I've filed several noise complaint forms, but the cops deem them as unimportant. I dunno if I should just go to the cops cuz I fear a possible retaliation. Also my other neighbors who I've known for years say they can't do much about it either even though they know that guy is up to no good. They have also said they have smelled drugs from the house as well as seeing other illegal activities like prostitutes coming in and out of the house.
you know there are nuts everywhere. I think it's a sign of the fact that there are no more mental hospitals to put people in. I have had a neighbor problem for over 20 years BUT mine have never been as bad as some of these. The only advice I can give is to absolutely positively give them no opportunity to let them know they are getting to you or it will never stop. Then under cover of darkness with no one looking, sneak up behind them and beat them half to death. No one will suspect it's you (including them) and they will be so freaked out and paranoid THEY will move. It worked in my neighborhood
I have been going through hell for over 16 years.
Have been dealing with NFH for past 10 years. We are in a duplex and both own our homes. We are both middle-aged with teenage girls. Sounds like it should work, right? The husband and wife are "shut-ins". Wife is clearly paranoid and at the very least bi- polar. Possible schizophrenia. Husband is bizarre and doesn't speak. Wife harasses my family, friends and contractors . She is home all day staring out her window watching every move we make. Unfortunately, we have a shared driveway. We plan to move in a couple years. As one poster mentioned, sometimes it comes down to that. I have been unable to effect change in 10 years. Frankly, I think her creepy husband delights in her antics. I feel so cheated of what could have been a completely wonderful experience. We are not on speaking terms, and it is uncomfortable. She has taken my mail, gone through my trash and stared into my windows. If it were not for her husband, I am certain she would be institutionalized. They claim to be very observant with their religion, yet they are the most repellent neighbors I have experienced in this life. And they just won't go away. I have nightmares about them sometimes. Clearly, the devil bit me here.
I just read most of your blog and I can totally feel your pain. Before I share my story, let me applaud you for sharing yours, and in such great detail at that. It must have taken a tremendous amount of courage to do so. Many times, I was moved to tears while going through this blog, as I can completely relate.
I also used to think I was alone in my nfh experience. So thank you again for sharing all of this.
I suffered my NFH years ago, in an apartment I used to live in. It was my first "grown up" apartment and I was really excited about it.
The first year there was OK, for the most part. However, when I was out walking one day, I came across a man who was acting very strangely. He was loitering and kept watching me; even while he was walking, he would continually turn his head to look at me. He continued to stare at me until he disappeared into one of the neighborhood convenience stories.
I was very irritated by this.
However, I brushed it off, thinking he was just some psycho on the street. Sometime later though, I saw the same crazy man entering the building adjacent to mine.
I really should have seen trouble brewing. However, he wasn't doing anything more - YET - and i really did love my apartment so i decided to just let it pass.
The real trouble began the following year. When i came back from running some errands, the crazy man was loitering around outside again. This time, he had the nerve to actually try and follow me. When i moved away, he then contented himself with staring at me. He stood outside his apartment building and watched me the entire time as i entered my place.
I tried to inform the apartment management, they said it was the job of the police. I tried to report to the police, they said they couldn't do anything unless he physically attacked me. I told my friends and family, they said i was being paranoid. (The police and apartment managers said the same thing, btw.)
I then discovered a secret entryway into my apartment - though i really hated being subjected to that, but of course, i had no choice. However, that did not stop him.
He then began blasting very loud music to intimidate me. Sometimes, he would also bang on the wall and shout obscenities (because he watched me enter, i suppose he figured out that his apartment shared a wall with mine). Sometimes, he would even switch on chainsaws! All this was to intimidate me.
I eventually lost my sleep and appetite. I hated having my sanctuary taken away from me - being subjected to a secret entryway into my apartment building. As pathetic as this was, I even scheduled my outings around the time he usually loitered outside, which was in mid or late afternoons, only so that I would not have to run into him again.
Part 2
(Sorry, I don't know how much space there is here, so I am writing in a second installment just in case)
For the record, I do not know why this man was at home all day, why he spent his days loitering around the street and so forth. He was between 40-50 y/o and clearly had no interests and hobbies and seemed to be living off welfare. It is really unfair though that I had to work so hard to get my apartment, while this bully got it so easily.
Ranting aside, i finally decided to move. It was a hard decision, especially since I had been so looking forward to getting my own apt. Moving would mean having roommates again. But soon, the crazy man terrorized me so much that I knew I had no choice.
After 9 months of terror, I left the place and haven't looked back since.
It has been years since that incident. Thankfully, time has healed the wounds. I never saw that man again, but last I heard, nearly 2 years after I left, I heard he had finally moved out of his apartment. Where, I don't know and I don't care to know.
But I have never seen him again.
I guess my experience isnt as severe as yours, Sue, and as some of the others' stories. Nevertheless, it was a really difficult time, especially since i didn't know when/how it would end. For that matter, Christmas of that year was one of the worst. I had to go away for a while, if only for a moment of relief.
Sue, I am glad your NFH has left as well. I too suffered from PTSD but now I am OK. I hope that you too will soon find a full recovery and that your nfh experience will soon become nothing more than a distant memory.
We also have a NFH. He has threatened to kill us and our pets, tresspassed (repeatedly), damaged and distroyed our fencing and hay crop. He has also followed us in his car, pulled out in front of us, blocked our driveway, installed lights aimed at our bedroom windows. In addition, he put video cameras up on posts, aimed in our windows and at every private area of our yard, he can't see from his home. He also sued us for adverse posession, prescriptive easement, etc. He did not win his lawsuit, but it did cost us nearly $40,000 to defend ourselves. He has accused us of harrassment, yet he is the one standing at the property line taking photos and video of us anytime we are outside. Our home is 1000 ft from the road, so he has to walk at least that far along his property to even get close enough to do this. He shoots guns at all hours of day and night. He has made false police and fire reports against us. The police do nothing.
It is also very likely he killed one of our pets. He acts like farming is a crime, when farming is protected by law. We grow crops, so there is no smell or noise. He complains about harvesting equipment and other farm equipment. He somehow feels he has the right to tell us when to harvest, what to
plant and where we can park our farm equipment. Perhaps he should have stayed in the city. Our rural farm neighborhood was heaven, until he moved in.
How much of this crap do we have to take?
Moving is not an option, we have lived here for 20 years and farm. The neighbor moved in a few years ago. He did not build his home or even purchase it, he married the woman that owned it. She is just as nuts as him.
My Sister is dealing with a Predator/NFH.
I will refer to him as "M" (first initial of last name) told her he wanted her property and she would be moving out soon.
His intensification of tearing down fence between properties caused her to react to stand her ground which he loved because now he made it look like she caused the whole scene, and "M" look like the Marine Hero which he is not.
"M" got on my family facebook page telling that he reacted because his nephew said "She said she is going to kill all of us" Her actual words to nephew "if anyone comes on my property I will." So nephew knew their families intent to go onto her property when he told uncle those words.
Bullying can lead to criminal conduct such as physical Violence.
He hit my sister three times making her fall to ground then allowed his family members to kick her in head, chin and chest. He is a dishonor to the Marine's name. Police detective instructed her to get protection order and place charges against "M."
please make this post anonymous thanks I am so glad you have this site. Did not know so many are going through the same situation.
We have NFH and thensome. I really identify with the posts here, particularly when sociopaths/psychopaths are mentioned. Here's an ad I was thinking of posting in propertyguys.com regarding our situation and NFH:
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To all victimized by ATV goons and NFH noise. One tactic is to buy a boombox (see Sears, Top Tech audio) I bought the 250 watt model and it booms out pretty good. Enough to drown out the screaming spawn and other noise. Once they start up, I crank up the box until I reach enough volume to drown them out. If you are really confrontational, play some Opera. Then there is always the 1500 watt model for the really adventurous. Caution: the NFH ain't gonna like it, be prepared.
Suggestion 2, try Meditation including Yoga Nidra. It has helped me and mine a lot. Good luck to all!
this sounds like a terrible situation. i hope it all works out for you
I'm guessing you don't check out this blogsite much anymore, I hope that things have settled down for you and your family, but this loser sounds almost like a mirror image of our insane neighbors. Only difference is that ours is a coward. Also the same treatment that the cops etc did was the same thing, total apathy. Our insane neighbors are all on public assistance, which is why no one does anything. If they did, the system would have to pay for everything for them.
These people are mentally ill and dumb as rocks. I doubt that the cops or courts would do anything because the local magistrate is a criminal too, who lets them off all the time.
Peewee also thinks he owns the whole world too. It must be a sociopathic tendency or something. Like you, we did NOTHING to these scum sucking leeches on the butt of society. We tried to be nice to them. I guess they were jealous that we built our own house by ourselves, since it's nicer than the rat hole they live in (oh and they burned 2 of their structures down so now they live in a disgusting filth ridden trailer). Someone kicked the door in while we were building the house, and I'm sure we all know who did it.
Cops do NOT care. If you actually find one who does, you are very very lucky. I just pray that they lose their house to property taxes as they almost did 2 years ago. I know it's not good to pray for the misfortune of others, but they deserve worse. We are prisoners in our own homes. We haven't taken a real vacation for over 15 years thanks to these low lives.
There is no reasoning with them, they are beyond help. Only God can help us and He's taking his time I guess.
The stuff I mentioned is just a tiny fraction of all the things they have pulled on us over the years. What amazes me is that we have survived without getting rid of them. I actually pray that God will help them because they are going to Hell if they keep this up.
I hope you are at peace and don't have your neighbor around anymore. Good neighbors are a godsend!
Sadly, our problem started when we bought our property and is ongoing. He is a total sociopath as well. We can't move right now, it would be like moving a mountain. We also now have another one of their loser relatives over there, he's a rapist that spent 10 years in jail and is a total liar (said he was in jail for drugs...but he's on megans law as a rapist). Sadly we are limited as to using cameras because even if we did, there is so much road frontage that we probably would not get anything, plus there is no electricity where we would need to film.
It's amazing how similar your freak of nature is to ours. Peewee (the dog/cat and human rapist sociopath is a coward, but he does sneaky stuff. He loves to throw dead animals in front of our place, and loves to throw pieces of them all over so that they stink up everything in front of our house. He blows off shotguns at night. He had some loser living with him who would routinely drive by and scream things at us (we couldn't even figure out what the heck he was saying anyway). Luckily that jerk left. The whole family are a bunch of thieves and liars and criminals. The cops don't care that they have a lot of incest and child molestation going on, I told the state trooper that when our scuzzy neighbors made up some lie about my husband trying to hit them with a car (the day after they were caught trying to steal our chickens) and called the cops on my husband after he tried to find out who the weasly creep was who was scurrying around like rats near our property at night.
It just goes on and on. Recently the new rapist and a 14 year old '4 eyed rat' kid that is related to the rapist had been walking (casing) past our property. I noticed that it looked like someone had been jumping over our fence and gate. They realized we knew that they had been over on our property and it's been real quiet recently. Unfortunately, it won't stay that way. They are on both sides of us too, as the dog rapist peewee got dumb girl to marry him and her parents bought a house for them.
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