Never Tell Them You're Recording

I made two big goofs during our entire ordeal. The first one was when I was so desperate to get him to leave us alone. It made no sense that we had done nothing wrong to him, we had in fact, tried to be cordial neighbors and he was doing all these ugly things to us. Thinking that he would quit if he knew we had been secretly filming and audio recording, I blurted it out. Dumb. That only made him sneakier and harder to document. If I had to do it over again, I would keep the recording secret until I absolutely had to divulge it - in court. By then we would have had even better evidence than we did.

Before you record your bully neighbor, consult a civil rights attorney. That money will be well worth it. We consulted an attorney and got all the pertinent details on when we can record and when we cannot record. You don't want to go to court and then find out that you violated your bully neighbor's rights. Bad move. Make sure you are within the law.

Slander is Their Favorite Game

A bully who hates you, turns to his neighbor and says, "That guy over there is a pedophile." If this is said about you, that's all it takes to become labeled by people who do not know you. And it's especially easy in a neighborhood where one neighbor barely knows the other. It didn't used to be that way - until HE moved in.

We know that our accuser - our former bully neighbor of four years - still spreads the slander - comes back to the neighborhood and gets neighbors stirred up because he is utterly obsessed with destroying us. We did not give him our property, we took him to court for shooting at us, etcetera, and he moved out one day before a trial that could have put him away for several months. The other thing about him - his children exhibit all the signs of having been molested. The vast majority of molestations occur within families.

People we once knew as friends are no longer friendly. They distance themselves and believe the rumor.

Bullies, with their twisted gray matter, need to be distrusted, not believed, distanced, alienated, stood up to, and driven out. But few people have the guts to do that.

I've know this for 8 years, but it was announced today that science now suspects that the brains of bullies are physically different from the brains of 'normal' people. Their brains' pleasure centers are stimulated by witnessing the pain of other people. They enjoy causing people pain, distress, anger - all the emotions we consider negative.

So far there is nothing that can be done medically to correct their twisted gray matter. And nine times out of ten, their families back them up 100%. I saw it with my neighbor and his family. Any relative would defend him to the death. He was a good boy, he never lied.

In the meantime, the rest of us have to endure, run away from, agree with - do whatever we can to tolerate them in free society. And that costs money - lots of money. While we bear the cost of court fees, moving, repairing, mourning the loss of pets that they kill, treatment for post traumatic stress disorder, whatever - they sit there and take pleasure in it.

There is something very wrong about this picture and the sooner the judicial system - especially Fresno's - takes this into their own gray matter, the better.

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