Any Ideas For This Target of A Bully?

I am going through the same thing. I am college student who is saving up to move out who lives eith a disabled parent in apartment complex. The neighbors above us are rude young college kids. The toture started when we said something to the office about them entarining to ludly and arguing before that it was quiet. All of a sudden they started slamming doors hard and throwing objects down that sounded like heavy furniture all hours of the night and blasting music from 9am to 4am. The area targeted is mt room there room is above my room constantly I loud music is bouncing at 1 and 3 am. Everytime I enter the bathroom someone starts slaming cabnients and each time at 4 in the morning someone starts making a banging or tapping noise usually in the bathroom area or by the closet. Because alot of times my mother is sleep she gets mad at me because I am help trying to find solution or venting. I get blamed and because this happens when she is sleep or not by her room but sge has witnessed inicidence she feels I am being to sensitive. I feel uncomfortable in the place and feel dread in reentering. We have notifiedf the rental management but they just give us the run around. The cops will probably be no help because the neighbors are able to but on front and con people by there all american appearance. Things have gotten so bad that it is causing disention in my house my mother doesn't really want hear about the situation and I feel like no one truly believes this is happening. I feel nervous and have anxiety when I return to the residence. I have ocd I feel that they are doing this partly because of I might do things differently and they think it us fun to target me. She tells other families that I am just being sensitive and they start fussing at me. I am looking for suggestions.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

The medical community now recognizes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as resulting not just from war, but from intense stress from a bully / sociopath / psychopath. The daily barrage that a bully is capable of, when directed at one person or a small number of people can result in PTSD. If you have the shakes, severe memory loss, can't concentrate, and feel unemployable - see a doctor, psychologist or psychiatrist. If your doctor thinks you have PTSD you can get one more mark against the bully who has targetted you. It can eventually help if you go to court.

Bullies are everywhere and they cover the spectrum from the small, everyday woman who likes to block aisles in grocery stores, to fellow workers who like to manipulate other 'comrades' into fights, to bosses who push their employees to the limit. Just yesterday I witnessed a woman who used her children to dump on other people. While she was watching, her 10-year old pushed a cart into a woman at the checkout counter. The kid rammed her several times while the woman turned around and looked perplexed at the mother, who stared back. The younger kid in the cart started high-pitched bawling and yelling right next to the woman. The woman finally left, shaking her head and the mother and kids advanced to the counter.

The mother is a major 'B' and she has created a nightmare for some poor overworked teacher who is charged with educating this kid who has been taught bullying - and probably manipulation - on a major scale.

What is her PROBLEM? Maybe she was raised in a bad situation or perhaps she was just born that way and no matter what the parents did, she was a Bad Seed. Who knows. But society pays, because the woman she picked on, and who could have been in a good mood when she entered the store, certainly did not leave that way. How did she drive her car after that? How did it effect the rest of her day? Was it the 'final straw' in the life of a woman already bearing more trouble than a normal person should?

Bullies are costly even on a small scale.

The Bully at Work

Of all the books I have read on the topic of bullying, this one is best to help you understand what kind of person you are up against. It can get a little scary, which is also why I recommend this book - you need to know what is stalking you.

A Reader's Post

This is a very informative piece by a contributing reader: "I am currently experiencing a bully next door.
I took him to court for his constant loud music and parties. We agreed to drop the charges if he would agree to be a good neighbor. Hah! Were we dumb! He was at it three days later, and ran when we called the cops. It looked like we were liars except we video taped the cars sitting next to the fence playing the music, so it was admissable.

We are going back to court for an injunction against loud music, since he just turns it up without parties now. Often it just starts up and he hides in the house. He bought a huge DJ system so he cn play it even louder.

Buy something called a sound snooper and hook it to your computer. It records the length and day of the disturbance and cant be altered. You dont have to get up, grab the video camera and try to prove the music is playing or call the cops who have more to do than run out there every few hours. It is admissable in court.

Now we are installing camera to show his kid standing in front of our house flipping us off while the other kid stands near by with a camera.

Hope this helps someone."

Heavy Cost of Psycho Neighbors

It's been five years since our psychopathic neighbor moved away and we are still struggling with getting back to where we were before he moved next door in 1999 - financially, physically, mentally. A psychiatrist told me it would take at least five years, if not longer, to recover from the PTSD (post-traumatic stress syndrome).

These people are very expensive to our society since they are motivated by the enjoyment of other people's pain. Strange, but true.